What's the point?

Kiddos last night and I was seriously asking myself, "What's the point of these visits?" R spent the majority of the time in the yard. A and N spent the evening watching TV, and M was on the computer. When does quality time turn into just quantity time? We have them for 3.5-4 hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays and I wonder what the point of it is.

So we spent time with them. If it is not quality time that what is the point? To me it seems almost more disruptive than not seeing them at all. But who knows…maybe they are getting more out of it than I can tell.

Of course we can’t amend the visitation schedule to one week on and one week off because that would mean that the ex wouldn’t get any money. And that is her admitted only reason for wanting the kids at all. But to me this schedule they have created is worthless if what R wants is some real quality time with his kids. But it is not my problem. It is his problem long term.