Everybody's working for the weekend

Yeah, me too. Trying to pound out work so this weekend is a quiet one work wise. We have the kiddos so anything could happen. I have breakfast plans with girlfriends on Saturday and I can't wait. It will be good to see them and refresh my soul.

I'm concerned though that because it is during N's soccer practice time, I'm going to be asked to take A&M with me. That kind of defeats the whole purpose of getting away for breakfast. I need to focus on worrying about what I can change and not stressing over what I cannot change.

R and I have been talking about marriage for a while. No ring yet, but we've come to an agreement on a date, 8/17/11. I found some nice dresses online that are "appropriate" for a second wedding. They are more suits than a traditional wedding dress. Of the 5 I've ordered I've received 3 and liked 2 of those. Not "OhmygodthisisitIcan'tbelieveit!!!!"  But more of a "This is a nice dress at a great price and I could see myself getting married in it."

R says whatever I want is fine. Big and poofy or sleek and smart, he doesn't care as long as I am happy with it. That is good.

Honesty...

You ask to stay overnight more, but then we hear you are crying because you are feeling bullied and pressured to do so.

You say nasty things, and then we hear you are being emotionally blackmailed when we tell you how that makes us feel.

We tell you we only want you to be happy, but we hear that you hate and fear us.

We bought a house that has room for all of you, and we hear you don't want to come over.

She doesn’t go to Mommy and Me with you because she has a date, but I’m the monster.

Your Mom tells you that Dad was “too busy” to take you to the Daddy & Daughter dance, but we were never told when it was and he was crushed when he found out it had passed.

I hate their mother. Sometimes I hate the kids too. And sometimes, just sometimes, I wonder “Why am I putting up with this crap? Is he really worth it?”

And I answer, “No.”

Pre-Mother's Day Weekend

As the stepmom (and not even that since we are not yet married) do I get props for Mother’s Day? My theory is this year, no because I am not their stepmom yet. Next year, yes. Regardless R is planning on celebrating Mom’s Day for me on Sunday. This should be very interesting. His ex is going away for the weekend with her new BF and doesn’t want them for Mom’s Day weekend. Odd in my book, but whatever. It’s her day and she should be able to spend it as she chooses, with or without her kids.

Regardless we will be seeing her that weekend, because as “luck” would have it the same town the ex and her BF are going to is the same town that there is a soccer tourney in. So she’ll be coming for that. Yippee. :p

I am curious about how she will react when the kids tell her that they celebrated Mom’s day for me? I think she’ll be livid. R would be livid if they spend Dad’s day with her BF and celebrated for him. Then again, he’s already said that that will NEVER happen. But if she doesn’t want them, then what are we supposed to do? Be jerks and say “Parenting plan says your weekend. Guess you’re going to have to cancel your plans. Sorry b!tch!”  Of course not. We’ll be nice and take them. Her holiday her choice on how she wants to celebrate.

My guess is that she’ll definitely have them next year because she will never let this happen again. So I will enjoy it. And next year I am sure I will miss it. But that’s ok…I’ll have had one. J