House stuff is going along very well and we finally told and showed the kids the new place last Sunday. They were pretty excited about it. Girls picked out their room’s, kids all explored the place, exclaimed it “Huge!” and ran off to find something new. Girls asked if they could have a sleep over. N was pretty excited about just having some privacy. Life is great.
This weekend they are with their Mom which is sad for us. We really miss them when they are gone. I feel a little schizo at times, but I am pretty sure that is natural. We didn’t get to see them on Thursday because A&M had a mommy and me craft with Girl Scouts. Makes sense that their mom would take them to that. R had asked if they wanted to spend more overnights with us during the summer. They said “Yes!”
The next morning we got a text stating that the girls had burst into tears because he wanted to spend time with them and they don’t want to spend any more time with him than they already do. That he should stop bullying them. They know they “have to” come see him and isn’t that enough for him?
Wow. Such a different response from what we got. Why is that? I suggested that he talk to his ex and get the girls counseling. But that won’t happen. He blames her for that, but I think it is just as much him as anything else. I wonder how other step-parent’s deal with this kind of thing? The kids seeming excited and wanting to do something with one parent, and then telling the other parent and the response being completely different?
And why are there not books for the Mom who is going to be “sharing” her kids with a step-mom? Why is it all about the step-mom and how we need to act? Shouldn’t there be something for mom about remembering that the kids are PEOPLE, not POSSESSIONS!
Pass the wine.
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